A Page I follow shared a photo of a man with no arms holding a wheel barrel with a rope around his shoulders which seems to be on his farm and the text said ‘tell me again why you can’t work?” I have a problem with this.
That man’s disability doesn’t contain harmful stigmas like autism or other invisible conditions. You can’t tell him just to grow arms but people think we can just turn off our autistic behavior like a switch or for folks with a mental illness ‘be happy’ or someone with chronic fatigue ‘ they need a good night’s sleep.’ Also he has someone to help him on that farm.
Most workplaces aren’t willing to accommodate us.
To me, it’s implying if he can do it then everyone should; not considering other barriers like discrimination, ableism, lack of accessibility, etc. The guy in the photo had access to accommodations which most disabled folks, can’t get.
We can’t just say everyone should be working and you have no excuse to not be working because this guy is when we don’t know the story. We are not educating ourselves on the barriers that disabled folks have.
I hate it when people judge based on what they know. What you know is not the only thing that happens.
Maybe in the past they did work but their condition got in the way so much, they were fired.
Just because it was easy for YOU got het hired and get accommodations doesn’t mean it will be easy for someone else.
If gaining employment/accommodations was ‘so easy’ then 80% of adults with autism wouldn’t be unemployed.
Disabled people want to work but their condition is their barrier. Discrimination is their barrier. Ableism is their barrier.
Even if there are people with said condition working, just because what ever they are doing works for them doesn’t mean it works for everyone. My mom can see a disabled person working at Walmart and assume retail works for me just because it works for him.
I hate it when my mom compared me to someone with a physical disability. For one, maybe they don’t have as much trouble getting support as autistics. Maybe their disability doesn’t have as many stigmas as autism. Stigmas are the reason why we do not get the help we need. When I went through that program that I thought would help me find a job, the lady they gave me refused to believe that I am autistic due to the stigma. Her reason was ‘because of how I talk.’ she blocked out any criitism given so she can learn.
As a result I was not place properly. Autistic adults are struggling because of these stigmas.
People think autism stops at 18 so resources for autistic adults are scarce.
I had trouble getting my mom to understand why a ‘regular’ job will be too much for me. I wish my mom would look past ‘stocking shelve’ (because I decided to work from home)
that won’t matter if
- I can’t even get an interview
- say I get an interview but never make it past that step
- can’t get along with the NT co-workers. I’ve been the black sheep in the herd when I was in school due to my differences
- if I don’t work fast enough
- if I am expected to understand subtle instructions
- being unable to understand non-verbal cues
- difficulties with socializing.
and several other points. It doesn’t matter how ‘easy’ the job is. If the barrier is still there, the job does not matter.
Be understanding instead of assuming everyone’s situation is the same just because someone you know is able to hold a job with autism or any other disability.
Yes they are able to hold a job but do you know the context? How do you know they don’t struggle to keep their job?
Even non-disabled people struggle with jobs because hiring teams are too picky with who will qualify.
Just because someone is unemployed does not mean they are lazy. For all that is holy; if someone needs SSI or food stamps cut the ‘taking handouts’ shit. I am 100% sure it takes more than walking into an office to get this stuff. Plus you don’t know the battles they fought to get it and you have the audacity to knock them down and call it a ‘handout.’
I will never understand how something that takes like 3/4 denials and a court appeal is a handout. The process varies depending on other factors the person has. Remember if finding work was as simple as you think it is they would be employed. Instead of blocking people out when they try to educate you, listen. I know when I talk about autism it’s based on my experience BUT I won’t assume everyone has the thing I did like I had teachers who understood my struggles but most kids with autism/ADHD didn’t have that luxury.
The world would be so much better if everyone stop judging just because someone they know had the luxuries that allowed them to seek employment.