This goes to show how with one word, you’re taken out of context and are a terrible person.
I was bullied out of a so-called mental health ‘support’ group. I expressed how I felt about older men hitting on me and it got me ran out of a group.
This started when I posted to a so-called mental health ‘support’ group about how it makes me feel weird when older men hit on me. I am not talking about the late 20s or early 30s etc. I was talking about men who appear to be 50-60 years old. I did mention these men should be pedos HOWEVER, I was talking about more extreme cases and NOT my case. Some people took my statues out of context and grabbed their pitchforks and tiki torches without a second thought.
I am using caps to make sure I am not taken out of context here. Since you are about to see how being taken out of context went awry.
People started bullying me, child shaming me. Just being horrible. I had no idea why people were so angry. If they needed more information regarding my post, they could have simply asked for more information. I guess bullying was ‘more fun’ for them. Even if my status was wrong, those grown-ass adults think bullying someone makes them better. If anyone is the child it’s them. 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
People were saying ‘age is a number.’ I would apply this to you being 18 and your partner is 24/25/26. You’re 25 and your partner is 30. You’re 30 and your S/O is 40. THAT is where I see age is a number. A 60-year-old creep hitting on a 20 something-year-old is out of bounds, period. These were WOMEN who bullied me out of that group, WOMEN. WOMEN BULLIED ME FOR SPEAKING UP ABOUT THIS. There were some men but most of them were ladies. They should be ashamed of themselves. If they wouldn’t want their son/daughter being hit on by older people what made them think I wanted that? They probably just saw the word ‘pedophile’ and lost their shit without asking questions if they didn’t understand.
As to the child shaming. ONLY a child can not like old ass men/women hitting on this but not a 23 y/0?! I did nothing wrong. They are the ones who took things too far. If someone is wrong it’s OK to correct them. Attacking and bullying them won’t get you far. They thought they were better than me when they are acting stupid. Bullying someone over a Facebook status?!
This shit is why I rather be an introvert and talk to no one. If I am read wrong I am labeled the villain. Is this how people gaslight aspies?
The video I linked will give you some ideas. It will show you key things that causes folks to misread us which leads to the hostility.
I left that sorry excuse for a group. Don’t call yourself a mental health page if that’s how you act
If they felt the post could have been written better, they could have left constructive advice rather than being straight-up bullies. They like to advocate for mental health and suicide but didn’t think about that before acting the way that they did.
You make it a mistake it’s OK but if someone else does they’re a bad person for it. That was the message I got.
I can’t be in a group that supports bullying. If someone is wrong, guild them to do better not treat them like their less than for making a mistake. I don’t know if admins got involved because I left the group.
I think the admins would have reached out if they did something.
I could have blocked them but it was just too many people attacking me.
I would have needed an automatic blocking system with the rating people were going at me.
Without awareness and understanding, I struggled. This video provides an example.
When I was in the 4th grade or 5th. I was afraid of the fire alarm. Autistics do not like loud noises. Due to the teachers being unaware, they probably thought I didn’t care about fire safety. Schools have to have fire drills. The teacher that I saw who helped me with my homework thought about telling the principal. I think I was read wrong in that situation too. They knew about my ADHD at the time. ADHD has sister issues to autism. Had the teacher tried to learn about my sensitives she wouldn’t have to talk to the principal.
The message I see here is instead of the NT stating they misunderstood, it’s our fault for THEIR mistake. Like in the group. They clearly misread me but I was the bad guy for it.
THIS is why aspies don’t want to talk to anyone. It’s our fault if we are taken out of context.