Getting My Mom To Understand Why I Chose To Work From Home.. in 2121
It’s been a while since I made a mental health post so I’d thought I’d do that. Sometimes, you have to do what’s best for you even if people don’t agree or you lose friends. It’s the harsh reality. I am here, to be honest with you.
How am I helping my mental health working from home? Well, I am not constantly going into an environment that will tank my mental health. I have been torn so much from the bullying
I went through in school. Do you really think I have the strength to go through it on a job?
I see YouTubers post they have to take a break, some people complain but their loyal followers will understand.
Like me for example. I couldn’t find a job I could handle. I mean something my mom didn’t expect me to be able to handle. I chose to work from home by posting content on my cryptocurrency sites. My earnings have picked up lately.
My mom sees me wanting to work from home, building my skills, etc as not wanting a job. I want a job, the job I’m aiming for, she doesn’t agree with.
I chose to work from home because it’s better for my well-being and my mental health. Also because I can easily accommodate appointments. At least it seemed so, my mom didn’t agree with me working from home because I’ll be in the house. Now let’s say I had a job, I’d be so burnt out I’d be in the house anyway. Chores will never get done because I am too burnt out from work to do them. If my friend wants to hang, I’m too burnt out to hang with him.
I can tell my mom about working from home until the cows come home. She will never understand where I am coming from and always label my reasons as ‘excuses’ because she doesn’t wanna hear it
I will be at the job, not her.
I will be treated like shit, not her.
I will be putting myself at risk of COVID and the Delta, not her. So it’s easy to speak when you’re not in the situation.
One reason my mom didn’t agree with working from home is that, in her eyes, a job is when you’re guaranteed a paycheck. Look at how many people
filed for unemployment last year when they lost their jobs due to the epidemic. They all thought their jobs were ‘safe.’
Even if my earnings fluctuate. I would rather have that than put my faith in someone who could fire me whenever they want. Or at any moment, something happens. In this case. No one saw it coming. The governor of my state closed all non-essential businesses. Those ‘guaranteed’ jobs were gone. YouTube, Twitch, this blog, and my crypto sites are still here.
People are opening their eyes are realizing they are worth more, they deserve to be paid more and treated right. So they took the time they were out of work to study and practice new skills.
I put that first.
My mom thinks it’s because ‘i’m afraid.’ I am not afraid, I am simply putting my mental health and my wellbeing first.
I have a reason to not want to go back to being bullied for being different. I chose to work from home because I’m putting my mental health and my well-being first. If I had painful monthly cramps, I can take time off without having to worry if I will be fired for it. If I have to schedule an appointment, I won’t have to worry about being fired for it. If the weather is bad, I don’t have to worry about putting my life at risk for someone who only cares about making money. For those who live in hurricane county, most of their employers won’t let them leave early for evacuation. These people want their workers to drown in a flood to fill their pockets. Money is important, however, if you chose money over humans lives, etc that’s where I draw the line. If I work from home, say I lived in Florida, I can get the hell out of dodge if they’re talking about a hurricane.
Nothing I say will get her to understand. I have to accept it. Folks will turn deaf ears when it comes to mental health or your wellbeing in the first place. After all, I said working from home is better for my mental health.
I want to explore. I want to have freedom.
Some folks are not going to agree with you when you have to make changes for your mental health or your wellbeing and that’s OK. At least you know their true colors.
It’s how life is sadly. Folks can easily speak on things without knowing the full context. My mom can see a disabled person working and assume I can handle the same job. Maybe that person doesn’t have sensory issues like me. Maybe they don’t need direct instructions like me. Maybe they are fighting so hard not to lose that job. We don’t know beyond what we see,
If you quit your job to improve your well-being and your folks don’t agree. Remember this, no one knows the demons in your head but you. No one knows what you go through besides you
My mom is a boomer, the only job she believes in is a job you go to. Me, being a millennial, we’ve opened up to different types of jobs. During the epidemic, folks found they got more done at home than in the office. Working from home helped disabled people when going a job was a struggle for them. My mom and I come from a different generation and nothing I say will change her mind.
The money you spend on gas or public transit, think about what they can go towards if you decided to work from home. Bette yet, when your company let you work from home, look at how much money you saved on gas and public transit.
The point of this post is, only YOU know what you go through. Only you know what you can tolerate. I know what will be too much for me, not my mom. Retail and fast food will be too overwhelming due to the pace and pressure. Posting on my blogs. I can go at my own pace, take time off when I needed. I don’t have to ask permission to take off. I can understand telling the job you will be taking off so they can plan while you’re gone. Some folks have their time denied. If this person earned the time, give it to them!
Working from home, I can take as many days as I want off, I can go as slow as I want. If I am feeling under the weather, I can take as much time as I need with no one threatening to fire me or penalize me.
I believe what I am doing is best for me. My mom likes to holler I need to make my own choices and think for myself. I believe this is the best decision for me and she doesn’t agree.
Making my content does take a lot of time. If I want people to reward it, I have to give them a reason. I have to reel them in. I have to show them I am serious about YouTube.
Those are all skills and responsibilities. If someone hires you to paint their room, they are not gonna pay you if you half-ass it. They are going to pay you for a nice clean job.
My mom and I are opposites. so it seems. If telling her how working from home is better for me isn’t working, I need to actually show her. I made 300 bucks the first time I turned in my blog earnings. If I keep it up I can turn my money in every week. 300 bucks. Way more than I’d probably make on the job she wants me to get because employers can legally pay disabled people less.
My mom says I am being stubborn. She can believe whatever she wants. Those jobs she thought were ‘safe’ were gone overnight when the lockdowns happened and even that didn’t get her to understand.
We are learning that no job is safe if you didn’t make it yourself. We want to work for ourselves not work for the man. We want to turn our passions into a job.
This epidemic opened our eyes and served as a wake-up call that those ‘real jobs’ aren’t as safe as we thought.
A job should be something you enjoy, that you want to do every day. I want to create content on YouTube, Twitch and my blog every day I get up. The skills I’ve gained can take me so far.
If telling her won’t work, I need to show her. As they said, actions speak louder than words. The pandemic opened our eyes and we are now realizing no job is safe. Even if there is no pandemic, the job can face hardship and have to make some cuts.
I decided to do what is best for my mental health and my well-being. My mom hollers we need to watch our stress levels but wants me in a job that will put my stress in maximum overdrive.
To my mom, a job to her is 9-5. A job to me is anything that makes you money and allows you to do what you love.