Autism Doesn’t End At 18
Some people under the impression that autism stops at 18 and whatever services the person needs, is no longer needed.
What makes people think it ends at 18?
Most schools provide accommodations for students with autism. Adults with autism have a constant battle with getting support and assistance. Getting social security can be a challenge. It’s a constant and scary world for us. What is going to happen if our parent/guardian dies? It’s even scarier for those of us who can’t find or keep a job.
Exclusive work places are the one things that keep us out. Misconceptions, stigmas also play a role.
I will talk about it later regarding things that keep us out of the workplace.
Getting an IEP for your child/teen is not as hard as trying to get disability. Needing a ton of records. Stressing the fact that autism doesn’t end when you’re an adult.
I had an IEP since the 4th grade. I can’t speak for other kids. It wasn’t hard for me to get an IEP. It can be hard for some kids. Also, not all schools will follow it.
I noticed that my mom understood me more up until I turned 18. It was a difficult transition to adulthood. If I couldn’t ‘adult’ like she wanted me to she will just shame me and say I think like a child. If I have never been exposed to adulting, HOW DO YOU EXPECT ME TO KNOW WHAT TO DO? The magical fairies aren’t gonna tell me what to do!
When I was a teen, my mom helped me when I needed it. When I became an adult for say, my mom would say I need to do it myself. How does she expect me to learn if I have not been exposed to it and if she doesn’t want to show me? I needed to pick a new dental plan back when I needed dental surgery. My mom didn’t even want to help me pick a plan. I ended up picking a plan that didn’t cover what I needed. It caused me so much trouble that would have been avoided if my mom had shown me what to do or walked me through it so I’d know. That gave me the impression that my mom thought I didn’t need help after 18. My mom doesn’t understand is how do you expect me to learn if I have never done it, never been exposed to it? I will more likely fail being thrown into something I have never done, learned, etc than to have some guidance until I get it right.
I am not saying I don’t want to learn how to do anything, I am saying you can’t expect me to just know.
I am saying my mom can’t expect me to read her mind to know what needs to be done then complain nothing gets done when it was never brought to my attention.
Autism doesn’t stop at 18. Nor should the assistance the person is getting. If it were a physically disabled person, would you take their support when they turn 18? Then why do it to us?
Autistic teens grow into autistic adults and have to ‘adult’ in a world that makes no sense to us.
I suck at adulting. Being shamed won’t make me better. Guiding me will help me.
Autism doesn’t go away. It never will. It’s neurological.